A Spell To Help Support The Women In Your Life

I wasn't entirely sure what to call this one, so it is probably best I explain the purpose behind this spell to see if it is one which resonates with you!


It is a sad fact, but society often pits women against one another, and it is us women who are the victims of this toxic mindset. We are told we have to be the prettiest, the smartest in the room, the most successful, and we are often taught to see other women as 'the competition'. Think of the trope of the 'popular mean girl' - we are taught to hate the popular girl, to be jealous of what she has, to want to be her. When in reality, most of the popular girls are lovely people! We are taught that we should feel threatened by women skinnier and prettier than us, we are taught that any woman more successful than us is a direct threat to our own success. And quite honestly, that's bullshit.


Maybe you have been lucky enough to grow up in a culture where this view isn't the norm, but for many of us this isn't the case. We end up tearing other women down so we can feel 'better' about ourselves, like we are the 'ultimate woman'. Not only does it harm other women, but it also increases our own insecurities and negative feelings about ourselves, forcing us to focus on what we lack rather than what we excel at.


We know we should support our sisters; we should celebrate their achievements rather than using them to measure our own success. But this can be difficult when we have this sense of 'competition' so ingrained in us. I'm sure most of us have been there, and most of us want to break out of this mindset, but it can be difficult. So this spell is to help you do just that - rather than see other women as your competition, or see their achievements as a threat to your own success, it encourages us to embrace the sisterhood. It helps us replace those negative feelings such as jealousy or insecurity with genuine love and support for those women in our lives when they do something great, helps us feel inspired by their success rather than focusing on what we lack in comparison, and helps us feel more confident in sharing our successes so we too can be supported by the women around us.


For this spell, you will need:

• 3 of Cups Tarot Card (I use Biddy Tarot's 'Everyday Tarot' set - you can even print out the imagery to use)

 

• Symbols which evoke friendship, love, and femininity: I use moonstone, rose quartz, rose petals, abalone shell, cockle shells, mussel shells, clear quartz, a scallop shell, and a conch shell

 

• Three small glasses (I just used shot glasses)

 

• A jug of water

 

• Notebook and pen

Start your spell work however you usually would; this may include cleansing the space, meditating, or you may just decide to jump straight into it!


First, reflect on why you are here casting this spell. Do you have a habit of comparing yourself to other women, or do you find yourself feeling insecure in the presence of other women? Do you find yourself feeling jealous, or feeling threatened by other women, or see their success as a reflection of inadequacies you feel within yourself?


Focus on letting these feelings go; open your heart chakra and see these negative feelings being replaced by loving energies, the energy of the feminine divine. It is hopeful, inspiring, and strong. Say:


"I dispel negativity such as (insert any specific feelings you have here, such as 'jealousy'); I replace it with the love of my sisters."


Start thinking about what you can do to ease these negative feelings you have and support your sisters more. It may be joining women's networking spaces on platforms such as LinkedIn, or praising your friends achievements when they post on social media. You may also have some more personal goals on there, such as being more vocal about your own successes and allowing others to lift you up and support you also. Write these down in your notebook and repeat them back to yourself to reaffirm these actions you will take.


Once you have done this, take the jug of water and pour it into the three glasses. As you do so, say:


"I support my sisters and lift them up, and in turn they lift me up.
I celebrate their achievements and share my successes with them.
We are community, we are strength, we are inspiration.
I connect with this feminine energy and use it to empower my own divine self!"


Pick up the first cup and say:


"I drink this cup for the Goddess, the feminine energy which binds us and flows through all of us."


Raise the glass as a toast, and then drink it.


Pick up the second glass and say:


"I drink this cup for my sisters, who I shall not tear down but shall support and celebrate."


Again, raise the glass in a toast, and drink the water.


Lift up the third glass and say:


"I drink this cup for myself, and my own divine femininity, a part of this sacred womanhood."


Toast the glass, and drink.


Finally, hold your hands to your heart chakra and say:


"Sisters unite! Together we are string, together we are powerful, and together we will inspire ourselves to be the best that we can be. So mote it be!"