Love Magick

With today being Valentines Day, I thought it would be an ideal time to talk about love spells. It is probably one of the most common types of spells asked for or searched for. However, love spells should not be taken lightly.


Many witches will tell you that you shouldn't cast love spells and that they are unethical. Do I agree with that? To a point. I believe you shouldn't cast spells to make a specific person fall in love with you, but I believe that spells to strengthen a relationship are a bit of a grey area, and I believe self-love spells or spells to attract love are OK. But I'm not here to tell you what to do. You may have a completely different view, and what one views as ethical is not always exactly the same as what someone else would. However, there are definitely some concerns and some ideals you should take into consideration before you make your decision.



The Ethical Considerations:


The big one is obviously free will. Many witches work by the rule not to work any magick that may interfere with another's free will. Forcing someone to hold romantic feelings for you is a pretty large invasion of one's free will, if you believe that we have free will. Consent is (rightly so) an important issue, and when we cast magick on others, we often don't ask for consent. Even if you do, could you imagine asking someone if you can cast a spell on them to fall in love with you, and them being happy about it? 


This brings me to my next point; would those feelings even be real? You may work this magick on someone and have them texting you, cuddling you, holding your hand, but would they really feel love? Or just compulsion? Would you really want to be with someone who didn't truly love you, who just went through the motions of loving you because they had no choice?


What if you cast your magick, it succeeds, and you land the partner you've wanted, but a few weeks or months later you realise that they aren't the person for you. What do you do then? Are you able to break the spell? Is it really fair to make them 'waste' several weeks or months of their life, or having them miss the chance to meet someone who is right for them?


These are just some of the ethical considerations you should take time to ponder over before you cast a love spell on another. Even casting a spell to strengthen an already existing relationship could have consequences. You can never truly tell how happy, or safe, someone is in a relationship.


The only 'safe' types of love spell in my personal opinion are self-love spells. You are casting it on yourself so no issues around consent, and we should all feel happy and confident enough to love ourselves.


Similarly, there is nothing wrong with putting your intention into the universe to help find you love. You could be specific with your requirements, such as 'funny', or 'enjoys reading'. But remember, the more specific you are, the less likely it will be to come to fruition. You could be missing out on someone who is just right but lacking in just one of your 'key requirements'.  As long as you never target one specific person, then in my book at least, this is acceptable. 
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If you do decide a love spell is in order, then red and pink are good colours to incorporate. Other symbols associated with love include hearts, doves, and roses. Crystals associated with love include rose quartz for self-love, and ruby or garnet for love from another.